Hello, do you like my hat? No, I do not. Good-bye! Good-bye!

Posted: 2011-05-13 in In a Past Life
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Years ago, I stole borrowed my father’s Filson “Packer Hat” for a costume in high school.  I liked it so much, I decided that I’d get one for myself when I was older.

Years down the road, when my wife and I were finally dating, we were driving through Baltimore and I stopped at one of the more prominent sporting goods stores in the area and finally picked one up.  My wife, who I now know was humoring me, didn’t really say much about it, and I would wear it for ‘outdoor’ type activities (hiking, camping, fishing, sitting at the beach, etc).  It’s a great hat for all of that – waterproof, flexible but with a moldable brim, and it “gains character” with age/use.

(Me on the beach circa 2007, in The Hat)


So, a year or two ago, we were going on a trip somewhere, and I pulled out The Hat.  I mentioned how I thought I might have lost it somewhere, and my wife blurted out, “I wish you had.  God I hate that thing.”

Now, she had teased me about the hat in the past, but it seemed like good-natured ribbing, and not an indication of deeper feelings.  This time it hurt though, because I truly DID like The Hat, and here she was telling me that she hated it.  I wasn’t about to toss it in the Goodwill Box, but I did stop wearing it as much (around her).  After all, when I’m wearing it, she’s the one that has to look at it, right?

That said, I’ll still pull it out for trips, or when it’s raining, or when I’m going to be going for a hike somewhere.  I like The Hat and although my wife may hate it, she loves ME enough to put up with it if I’m not going to be too blatantly ostentatious about wearing it in front of her.  It’s a good thing, too, because unless I “lose” it, this thing is probably going to last me another 20 years or so of use.


  1. SteveB says:

    The hat! The hat!


  2. snoringKatZ says:

    I like The Hat. I remember that photos as your avatar back in the day, too. I’m glad you still enjoy it!

    I routinely wear all kinds of things that Mr. sKz loudly and plaintively proclaims are hideous affronts to his eyes. Unlike you, I am not kind enough to ease his pain. If I like it, I wear it. There’s also a small(?) sadistic streak in me that likes to make him suffer, of course. 😉


  3. Well, at least your wife didn’t really say, “Goodbye! Goodbye!” after you bought The Hat. But sometimes one has to put up with certain sartorial items in order to keep peace in the marriage. My husband loved this pair of patent leather dancing shoes he’d bought for a class he took. He wore them to our wedding ceremony, which was fine because he was wearing a tux that day. But when he began wearing them to parties and fancier restaurants—with brown suits!—I had to break out the “Honey, uh, about those shoes….” The last straw came when he wore them with white pants and a maroon shirt. I told him then he looked like a Latin American pimp, and if he didn’t get rid of the shoes himself I’d chuck them into the neighbors’ dog run. He hid the shoes in the back of the closet after that. Thank goodness: I was wondering if you could divorce a person for lack of fashion sense.


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